For Young Adults

The Law

The law when it comes to rape and sexual assault can be very complicated for children and young people. The information that follows will try to help you understand what rape and sexual assault is, as well as how we can help you come to terms with the physical and emotional affects both can have on you.

Rape is when a man forces his penis into the vagina, anus or mouth of another person when that person doesn’t want him to do so; the law calls this ‘without consent’.

Sexual Assault is a crime that can be committed by both men and women against men or women. Different types of sexual assault include:

  • Objects or parts of the body (e.g. a finger) being put into someone’s vagina or anus, when that person doesn’t want it to happen.
  • Someone being touched in a sexual way that makes him or her feel uncomfortable or frightened. This could be through their clothes like bottom pinching.
  • Someone being made to sexually stimulate themselves using their hands or fingers (known as masturbation) or putting objects into their vagina or anus, when they don’t want to do it.

Don’t worry if this sounds confusing. The most important bit to remember is that being pressurised or forced to have sex when you don’t want to is a crime!

 

Who should I tell?

If you have been raped or sexually assaulted in any form it is first important to remember that you are not alone. It is important that you tell someone as soon as possible and don’t keep it to yourself. Telling someone what has happened means that you can get the support you need.

The person you talk to should be someone that you trust and feel comfortable with, maybe a friend, parent, GP or a school teacher.

You can also speak to the Police who have specially trained officers to deal with these things. You can contact them immediately by dialling 999.

This may be difficult for you to do, but it is important that you try to tell them as much as you can about the rape or sexual assault. The police do understand how hard and distressing this can be and will take it very slowly. They can write down and record everything you say as it might be used in evidence if your case goes to court.

 

What is a sexual assault referral centre?

The New Swindon Sanctuary is also known as a sexual assault referral centre or SARC. They house specialist doctors/nurses and people who can help following a rape or sexual assault. They will ask you about what happened and then examine your body, but only with your full agreement, to try and find evidence of what happened to you.

If you have been a victim of rape or sexual assault it is best that you try not to shower before you go to any examination. Also try not to wash your clothes, go to the loo (although this may be difficult) or have a drink. Doing so could get rid of evidence, which might be helpful in a Police investigation. Remember it is not the end of the world if you do so please do not worry or panic.

The most important thing we can do at The New Swindon Sanctuary SARC is to make sure that you are okay. They will advise you about how to deal with a possible pregnancy, check you for sexually transmitted infections, and sort out treatment if you have caught anything. They can also arrange for you to get support from local services.

It is important to remember that as a young person you do have the right to confidentiality, but if the professional person you have spoken to is worried about your safety they will need to speak to a doctor, psychologist or a social worker. Before they do this they will discuss this with you so you will have the chance to say how you feel.

You can discuss any worries that you might have about this and the person you have spoken to has to take your concerns seriously. Usually when someone does pass on private information about you it is because they are worried about you and want to make sure that you are getting the right support.

 

How will I feel and how do I cope?

A rape or sexual assault is often very frightening. Most people feel upset and find it difficult to cope. You may even notice a number of changes in your behaviour, how you think, feel and behave. These changes are very normal and for many people they only last a few weeks.

 

Home Life

As you will understand rape and sexual assault affects every person differently. You will no doubt feel different and feel that life at home may also change. In some cases it can bring some families closer together and you may feel very comfortable and safe talking to your family about how you are feeling. However, some parents find it extremely hard to cope when their child has been assaulted.

You may feel that your parents may blame you for being assaulted or don’t even believe you at all. When your parents behave like this it can be really upsetting and can leave you feeling very alone, confused and abandoned. It can be very hard to tell your parents that they are wrong and that they have hurt you with their comments.The New Swindon Sanctuary SARC has a dedicated young person’s worker who can not only help you deal with what has happened but also help your family. We offer advice and sessions for you as a unit. You do not have to do this alone if you do not want to. And remember if you can’t talk to your parents then call our Young Persons worker on 01793 507946.

 

 For immediate help call;

 24 Hour Helpline                                               0808 168 0024

 Children & Young Persons ISVA                  01793 507946

Whilst Swindon Sanctuary offers a 24/7 service, appointments need to be made in advance before attending so we can arrange the appropriate professionals – you can do this via our 24/7 self referral helpline: 0808 168 0024

Confidentiality

If you do give us your contact details or, provide identifiable information, we will usually keep your contact with us completely confidential. However, in certain circumstances we may have to share information with another agency (e.g. social services, police or the ambulance service) in order to protect you, or another person. This will apply if:-

•             you are a child or young person under 18  who has experienced, or is at risk of, serious harm or, 
•             you provide information about a child or young person under 18 who has experienced, or is at risk of, serious harm or,
•             we feel you are a vulnerable adult who has experienced, or is at risk of, serious harm or,
•             you provide information about a  person we feel may be a vulnerable adult who has experienced, or is at risk of, serious harm.

The person you speak to will be happy to discuss this in more detail. Whenever possible we will advise you before any breach of confidentiality is made.